Coming soon, and I can't wait!!

It's been awhile since I've anticipated an upcoming movie, but this looks GOOD.

With Mike Epps & Ms. Tasha ... you cannot go wrong!

Plus, I'm a simple romantic at ♥ ...

♥Ciara "Cc" Denise

"My ex-girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson, if you don’t show a woman you love her and give your all to her—she knows it."

So today I've been reading through all the blogs I've subscribed to but never look at, lol. I came across one that I think will make the top 10 list, just so I can keep up with his posts. The blog is BLACKGIRLSAREEASY.BLOGSPOT.COM ... and I will admit that the only reason I even clicked on it is becasue I was ready to read this fool for such a ratchet damn blog title. However, after reading through some posts I realized that although the blog title is very ignorant (he admitted it as well) he really isn't. It's actually a blog about relationships or in some cases just relations, from a man's POV. I'd check it out, ladies ... if only for a peak inside the mind of man who seems to have done it all AND actually learned something from it!

SN ... the title quote is very, very true ☺

♥Ciara "Cc" Denise

Girl Talk

From the moment that I knew I was pregnant, I knew she was a girl. It wasn't just the fact that I felt just about every pregnancy symptom imaginable within 3 weeks of conceiving right up until the day that I delivered her (It's an old wives tale that girls make you sicker during pregnancy due to increased estrogen). It was a connection that I felt almost immediately. There is absolutely nothing like the bond between mother and daughter. She's my best friend and the most hilarious person that I know. She's taught me so much about myself and life in general, just as I'm teaching her as we go along in this journey together. Life is always the best teacher, but at least she knows that she will never have to face any obstacle alone.

Raising my daughter to be a strong, smart and independent woman is one of my top priorities. Too many young girls are falling short of the simple and basic principles of life, like pride and self respect. A lot of the traps that our babies are falling into can easily be avoided with just a little womans' intuition. The problem is that we aren't being taught or are not teaching just how to listen to that intuition. We're giving away our power by the loads full simply because we don't know how to use it and it has to start somewhere. It should start at home because please believe that while you are awaiting the right time to bring it up, she's learning from everything else around her. TV or friends who really don't know anymore than her; The blind leading the blind!

This is an important matter that will continue to resurface until we really start paying attention. Not trying to control or change them, but getting involved in their lives so you know whats going on. Maintaining the bond so that you can tell when somethings wrong,  when it's time to ease up and let them find their way, or when its time to pull the parent card! There is no sure fire way to ensure that your children will blossom into a model citizens, but when you equip them with the right tools & knowledge you can rest assured that you did your part.


♥Ciara "Cc" Denise
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Try as you might ...

... You can not control other people! No matter who they are or what you do for them. Everyone has a mind of their own. Even in cases of influence, it may seem as if you can persaud someone to do the things that you want them to but they still have to agree to do it. It is a painful reality, especially when it comes to your children. But once accepted, it's freeing. Trust that you have done your part and it is now up to them to live thier lives.

♥Ciara "Cc" Denise

Is it You???

When things go bad in any type of relationship - whether its family, love, friends or career wise - it's always easy to blame the other party for the fall out. Seldom do we look at ourselves to see that maybe {just maybe} we did something or allowed something to go on that lead to the disagreement. Here are a few tips that might help you and your relationship get beyond the drama or at least get you past it ...

• If your life is consistently on high drama ... it may be you. Drama can be addictive and I, myself am guilty of subconsciously falling into common traps of it. Once I realized this, I started making a conscience effort to avoid drama-filled situations and people ... and what do you know ... less drama.
• If you never ever feel the need to apologize because you are never wrong ... it may be you. Everyone has their days, no one is perfect and most disagreements are easily squashed with a simple "I apologize for ..." If you feel that you are never in the wrong, chances are: You are the problem. Sometimes you may only need to apologize for your reaction to some one else's imperfection. Whatever the case is, life is simpler when you apologize and let it go.
• If you find yourself holding on to old grudges ... it's definitely You! He who angers you, controls you {Author unknown}. Don't allow the past to hinder your present life situation. There is absolutely no need for it. This does not mean to forget and not learn from the experience, it only means to forgive and move on. Take the lesson with you, but leave the ill feelings where they are because they only make you feel worse.
• If you just don't feel the love ... it may be you. Relationships should always be 50/50, but not necessarily in the same way. I may be the friend that you can call and cry to, but you may not be that friend for me. However, you are the friend that I can call for information on anything when I need it or you may be the friend that I hang out with. Don't expect people to love you the way that you love. They are not you. You're only setting yourself up for failure. Accept people for who they are and you'll see how easy it is to recognize the good in them and if it still isn't easy, then it's time to re-evaluate the relationship.
• If you take and never give or vise versa ... it maybe you. Selfishness is never in season. It's obvious, ugly and only leads to resentment. Now, that doesn't mean give, give, give until you have nothing left. If you're giving your all to someone, they should be filling you up in return. Don't waste your time on one way takers.
• If it's always someone else's fault ... it may be you. You didn't finish school because your parents weren't supportive. You can't be faithful because your mate doesn't keep you satisfied. You didn't make it to work because your friends wanted to hang out late. COW MANURE! You have to take responsibility for yourself and your decisions. Otherwise, shut up and deal with whatever "they" give you.

Just in case you didn't get the message ... it's mostly always YOU. Only you have the power to make you happy. It's no one else's responsibility. If you are unhappy with someone or something, figure out why. If it's worth fixing, fix it. If not, replace it. Harboring ill feelings only pollutes you. Deal with the matter and move on ... life is much simpler that way.

♥Ciara Denise

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The fine art of "NO"

Your mom needs you to run to the store. The hubby needs his dry cleaning picked up. The kids are bored. Your friend needs advice. Dinner needs to be cooked. The floor needs to be mopped. The dishes won't clean themselves. Your assignment is due. The boss wants to know where your report is right now!

And all you want to do is run and hide!

The thing about being overwhelmed is that it makes you not want to do anything or better yet ... FACE anything. For fear that there is more to come. That the demands will never stop. The truth: they won't. Some-one will always need some-thing from you, just as you will always need some-one for some-thing. It's the way of the world, we're all co-dependent at our best. The trick is in prioritizing what's important and learning to SAY NO to whats not.

Telling someone you love or care about that you WON'T be able to meet a request of thiers may make you feel like a bad person, but I like to think of it as doing that person a favor. Seriously, I'm not joking! Consider this: If I say yes to something that I either really don't have time to do or really don't want to do, how good of a job am I really going to do?! Not only that, when it doesn't come from the heart it looses its effect. You become resentful and have an "attitude" about the task and/or person and nothing good comes from that. You feel like the person "owes" you something and when it's not reciprocated for whatever reason, your resentment grows. Or you spread yourself so thin that even though you don't mind helping out, you're tired and cranky ... and it shows. Either way, it's best to just be honest about what you are really feeling. If you have room for more on your plate and you don't mind helping, go for it! But, when you start to feel overwhelmed or better yet, once you know you're at the capacity of what you can handle before you start to feel overwhelmed, let it be known. You'll save yourself the stress, you'll save yourself time, and most importantly you'll save your relationships. People have no choice but to respect honesty. They may not like it, but if they choose to maintain the relationship they will respect it and it will free them up to be more honest with you as well. They have probably come to you in the first place because they know you'll do a good job ... why jeopardize that rep by performing below standard because you really didn't have time to focus on the task?!?!?! A good friend or family member will understand that you'd do anything for them under normal circumstances. You have to take care of yourself or everyone suffers.

Mom can ask your brother that sits in his room all day with his headphones to head to the store, and maybe Hubby can pick up his own dry cleaning since he's out anyway. The kids can bust the suds if they don't have anything better to do! While, you breeze through your assignment and the report with ease due to your clear mind and relaxed state!  Okay, maybe in a perfect world but you get my point. Somethings can be worked out and once everyone is on the same accord the ship will run much more smoothly. There will definitely be more family-fun nights versus family-vent nights!

♥ Cc

QUESTION OF THE DAY ...

WHY do guys that cheat get mad when they find out that their girl is cheating, also????

Did REALLY not expect it {or understand it}?!?!?!?

I need some outside input to understand this shit ... and I'll elaborate later ;-)

What's holding you Back???

FINALLY I've had the chance to catch up on Tiny & Toya and I must say, it actually made me think. Really I just expected to be entertained by Tiny's {overly} Southern drawl and both of the ladies' story. I love seeing how other people live their lives. Seeing how they deal with life in general. Be it on tv or getting to know new people in my own life. I think it's important to know that there is more to life, more to the world than what you're used to seeing day to day in your own.
After recapping all 4 episodes that I've missed since the shows premier I actually feel motivated to go further with my own goals and aspirations. From each story I've gained something. Like Tiny's situation, I too have wondered if fighting to maintain my individuality will create a gap in my relationship. I have since realized that you absolutely have to in order to maintain a healthy relationship, even if it's not exactly what he may want at the time. But I know first hand how it can be really hard to 'rock the boat' when things seem to be coming along peacefully. When you finally get what you want, you tend to feel kind of guilty about wanting more. But it's human nature to continue to strive for bigger and better. Not only that, you have to be true to who you are or you'll begin to resent the other person, maybe even yourself for all the things you didn't do.
Toya, wow. The family issues I realate to 100%. My mom wasn't/isn't on drugs. But she wasn't there. To be fair, she was working to keep us out of the lifestyle that she grew up with. She wanted better for her kids, and we got it. I give her much credit for that. We never went without the neccesities, but that was it. I kind of feel like she did what she had to do, and that was it. Things that I should have learned as a girl, I didn't. Instead I'm learning as I go. Relationships that should have been cultivated as I grew up, weren't. I'm still learning things now as an adult that, in my opinion I should already know. Things that I worried about as a young adult were things that my friends are still not worrying about. All of which has made me into the self sufficient person that I am today ONLY because I decided a long time ago that the blame game wasn't going to help me to survive. I have grown a great deal, so yeah I know that my mom did the best she knew how to do, and I can't expect more than that. But it does hurt still when I'm with my friends and their families and you see the love. I didn't really feel that growing up in my home. I don't feel like I can call my Mom if all else fails. Or anyone else for that matter. I feel like I have no choice but to make it and I don't want my daughter to feel like that. I will have her back first and foremost no matter what happens and I want her to know that in her heart. All of my babies. Nothing should ever be more important than family.

What it all comes down to is that everyone is human. No matter how much money or fame you have aquired, you are still a PERSON. We all have our pains and struggles as well as our triumphs. I laughed, I cried. I'm definitely going to try catch the show. Or atleast keep up on Bet.com!!!